October 05, 2019
When you’re single, it can feel like there’s no eligible dating partners to be found anywhere. No matter how hard ladies are looking for love, it simply seems like there are fewer and fewer eligible dating partners. Especially for women, that old saying, “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” seems to be false these days. And in some places, it is!
Around the world, gender ratios are becoming more and more unbalanced. It’s especially extreme in areas like Asia and North Africa. But what does this mean for dating in 2019?
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), the gender ratio at birth is already naturally imbalanced. On average, for every 100 girls born, there are 105 baby boys. However, WHO also says that men are more likely to die at a younger age than women because of health, disease, and external influences like accidents and violence. Though this is morbid, it means that the gender ratio should naturally balance out over time.
But this is simply not the case in many countries and regions, including
These countries all have exceptionally large population gaps between men and women. Gender ratio discrepancies are prevalent in some of the biggest nations in the world, which means that their populations are enormously uneven. For example, China has 80 million more men than women!
The sad reason for this inequality is often sex-selective abortions in countries that prize sons over daughters. Male children may be preferred for sexist reasons or because they are thought to be more capable of financially providing for their parents in old age.
However, the dominating gender is not always the same. In most places, there are far more men than women. However, in Hong Kong, there are only 852 men per 1,000 women. What is the cause of this extreme imbalance? 2 things, according to researchers: migrant women from mainland Asia flock to Hong Kong to find work as domestic servants (thereby increasing the female population), and nearly one third of married Hong Kong men have partners from mainland China. That means that, for Hong Kong women, finding a male partner is no easy task.
Dating has always been difficult, even when the numbers of men and women are evenly matched.
So how does the uneven gender ratio in Hong Kong affect your search for the perfect partner?
In many Asian countries, women might feel pressured by friends, family, and society at large to marry young and start a family. On the other hand, many women, especially in Hong Kong, are very focused on their careers. They devote most of their time, energy, and effort to their work, and dating is simply not a priority. But this leads to feelings of loneliness or being left out—especially when all your friends are coupled up and you feel like the third wheel.
The hunt for love is difficult, and for Asian women, time is not on their side. There is a popular belief that men in Hong Kong prefer younger women. The gender ratio imbalance often allows men to pick and choose their dating partners, and they often choose women younger than themselves. That means that women feel pressure to find a match before they turn 30.
This doesn’t only give men an advantage in the dating world. It frees men in Hong Kong from having to worry about choosing a mate when they are young. They can focus on their careers while they are still in their 20s and look for a wife when they are a bit older and well-established in their jobs. But because women feel the need to find a husband while they are still young, they must balance their work with their dating lives. This can have wide-ranging economic effects, including an extreme gender pay gap; women in Hong Kong make HK$4,000 less than men a year, on average.
Hong Kong women are known for having high standards when it comes to finding a husband, and this hasn’t changed despite the gender ratio inequality. One of their requirements is that their future partner is economically secure. According to Hong Kong gender expert Dr. Suzanne Choi, “the marriage norm of men marrying down and women marrying up has remained largely intact.” This means that women may expect their dating partner to be more financially established than they are. This also means that Hong Kong men will turn to mainland China to find a woman that isn’t as economically independent as most Hong Kong women.
All this focus on money isn’t just materialistic. It’s an important factor in making big life decisions because many young people in Hong Kong are facing growing financial pressures. Housing in particular is very expensive, and prices are only continuing to rise. In order to afford proper housing, women may require their love interest to be financially stable.
Sometimes, being lonely in love can be dangerous. Online dating fraud is rampant in Hong Kong, and it costs lonely women thousands of dollars if they are the victims of scammers. In 2016 alone, women unwittingly gave over HK$95 million to criminals running fraudulent online profiles. Local experts say that the gender imbalance forces women to go online to meet their perfect match. Women desperate to find a partner might be more willing to send a stranger online money in exchange for the commitment of a romantic relationship.
For the women in Hong Kong, there isn’t a large pool of male suiters to choose from, so it can seem hopeless trying to find your perfect match. And men may feel overwhelmed such an imbalanced the dating world. If you’re ready to meet your future partner in Hong Kong, make an appointment today for a free consultation. We provide personalized matchmaking and offline introductions so you can find the love of your life. Call or email us today!